When a child comes into the world, it's usually a cause for celebration.
However one family's joy at welcoming a baby girl was recently put on hold, when the newborn's grandmother kicked up a major fuss in the hospital.
A first-time dad has taken to social media to share the tale of how the special moment when he introduced his daughter to her grandparents was ruined after his mum flipped out over the name choice.
In a post on Reddit's Am I The A**hole forum, the unnamed man explained how he and his wife had kept the name a secret until the birth – and clearly they had good reason.
He wrote: "New first-time dad here to a healthy little princes born this past Thursday. Unfortunately, the joy my wife and I felt in this scenario was temporarily halted by my mother's wholly inappropriate behaviour that I'm just not ok with."
The man goes on to admit that his mum has a "massive victim complex" which they've been dealing with for five years, ever since they got married.
He says he and his wife were "tired of her leaving a stain on every moment that should be joyous" so he sat down with his mum and told her to change her attitude – and the talk seemed to have done the trick, at least until the arrival of the baby.
"The big day arrives and everyone is at the hospital," he recalls. "Baby is born, we had some bonding time as a family, then invited the grandparents (both sides) up to meet her.
"On arrival we introduced her and shared her name. My wife and I come from different religious backgrounds and thus different naming traditions.
"Mine is to name after a departed loved one, hers is to name after a living relative. So our compromise was to name her after my grandmother (mum's mum) who passed a while ago and make the middle name for wife's mum."
Everything is fine until the topic of the middle name comes up – and the man's mother loses it.
"She's beaming that her granddaughter is named for her mother, then when we get to the middle name her face changes to a look of pure anger and she says 'YOU DID WHAT?!'"
The mum proceeded to share her disapproval and eventually her son decided enough was enough and kicked her out of the room.
He then says he banned her from seeing the baby until she's "ready to behave like the grandmother we want our daughter around".
However, his family weren't so sure about this decision, so he turned to the internet for advice on whether he'd behaved too hastily.
More than 1,200 people commented on the post, with most of them taking his side.
One replied: "BRAVO TO YOU!!! I read stories like this so often about mother-in-laws ruining baby births and I am really impressed at you for not only recognizing the issues some time ago and having a serious talk with her, but also for stepping in and having her leave when she started throwing her tantrum."
Another said: "Who cares what you name your child. That is purely up to the parents to decide, no one else gets input."
Someone else wrote: "I've seen this kind of thing happen so many times. Everything is lovely, then the family arrive.
"However. It is rare that I see the partner being the one putting their foot down. So Bravo to you, sir. Your wife was tired, emotional, and absolutely needed your support.
"You are already setting excellent boundaries to benefit your little one. I see so many people who just let 'toxic' family members walk all over them. Good for you."
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